11 Surprising Things Men Do — and Don’t — Notice About Your Body

While you’re busy obsessing about your stretch marks, or that 10 pounds you just can’t seem to shed, men are usually way too busy admiring the rest of you to notice (or care) about that stuff. Below, a panel of real-life dudes elaborates on what they don’t notice or care about — and what they do notice and love.

1. “The way I feel about her isn’t dependent on what a scale says.”

“My fiancée is definitely insecure about her weight and what shape she’s in. If it comes up, I typically reassure her that she has the ability and drive to improve whatever’s bothering her. But I also always tell her how beautiful I think she is no matter what kind of shape she’s in. I truly feel that way — it isn’t dependent on what a scale says.” —Justin C., 28, Jersey City, NJ

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2. “Seriously: All boobs are great.”

“My feelings about boobs are strongly positive. Any set from very small to large is great with me.” —David S., 30, Pittsburgh, PA

“Pretty much all boobs are great. Small boobs are great for certain reasons and big boobs are great for other reasons.” —Tom P., 30, Maplewood, NJ

3. “You’re way more concerned with symmetry than I am.”

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“I’m surprised by the number of times women have talked about a certain feature not being symmetrical or the same size, like eyes or boobs. I would never have noticed.” —Kyle T., 38, Atlanta, GA

4. “It doesn’t matter what’s going on down there.”

“I’m not particularly picky about how a woman grooms herself. Anything from bald to hairy is fine, as long as there’s general maintenance happening and it’s all clean.” —David

“Do I notice how a woman grooms herself down there? Yes. Do I care? No.” —Tom

5. “I actually like some of the stuff you complain about.”


“I find imperfections like moles or scars — the things that make someone truly unique — super attractive.” —Chris E., 36, New York, NY

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“For some (insane) reason, my girlfriend hates her freckles. And her curly hair. She calls it ‘a mess’ and ‘too frizzy.’ I think it’s super attractive.” —Charlie M., 28, Greenville, SC

6. “Your butt is the best.”

“I don’t discriminate on size. Butts are probably the greatest thing ever invented.” —Kyle

7. “I love the little things.”


“One of my favorite things about a woman’s body is probably their chin or jaw. When a woman has a strong chin, it’s a big win.”David

“It’s some of the things you can’t touch that are my favorite, like the way the back of my girlfriend’s neck smells all the time.” —Chris A., 30, New York, NY

8. “You stress about your body way too much.”


“My fiancée will make comments about having a big belly if she’s feeling a little heavier than normal. I would have only noticed her stomach to the extent that I think it’s smooth and curvy and sexy as hell.” —Luke, 30, Los Angeles, CA

“Too many times, I have played the cheerleader or the coach role to my significant others, and it left me feeling drained and like I wasn’t getting anything out of the relationship. When someone knows what kind of person they are and feels free to be themselves, that puts me at ease and makes me want to come out of my shell for them.” —Stephen C., 27, Hoboken, NJ

9. “You have to love who you are.”

“Someone who eats healthy, doesn’t abuse their body with drugs, maintains and overall healthy lifestyle and actively takes a role in their health is very appealing to me. This may sound strange, but when I see someone who is working to be healthy, I can just see their own positive self-image radiating from them. I would never want to be with someone who didn’t love their own body or love who they were, so when I see that sort of thing manifest itself in lifestyle choices, I feel almost uplifted by looking at that person.” —Stephen

10. “I like when she’s open about her insecurities.”


“Everybody has their own insecurities about themselves, both visible and not. So of course my partner has expressed insecurities about herself, as I have to her about my own hang-ups. The good thing is, once we talk about whatever the issue may be, we usually feel better. Having insecurities is human, but being able to express them to your partner is dope.” —Chris A.

11. “Confidence, confidence, confidence.”

“I once dated someone who had very little confidence, and it was a chore. People don’t realize the sort of friction a lack of confidence can cause in a relationship.” —Phil R., 32, Louisville, KY

“Confidence is big. If she’s feeling confident, then she’s comfortable communicating with me. All of the best sex we’ve had has been when she’s feeling confident about her body.” —Luke

“I already think she’s great. But if she thinks she’s great, that’s like the cherry on top.” —Tom

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